Meeting Your Online Date Face to Face and What to Do If it Goes Wrong

Well done. You have joined a great dating site, and found what you feel is your ideal partner. After getting to know each other online, and seeing the picture, all is well and you decide to meet face to face. This is the first step in a new relationship, will it be everything you have ever dreamed of? or will it all go wrong? If it does turn into a nightmare, and you need to get out and fast, how do you do it, and what precautions should you take to make sure you keep your escape routes open?

You may have emailed, spoken on the phone, and seen the other persons smiling face on a digital photo, even so your first meeting is in reality little better than a blind date. So you are there nervously waiting for your soul mate, but after you meet you realize quickly that there is little hope of a spark, and all you can hope for is a fire drill or other man made disaster to end it as quickly as possible. You can’t rely on fate intervening, so how do you ditch a bad date? Here are eight practical options you should always have in mind in case of a bad date emergency.

1 – First impressions count. Make sure you are there first and get yourself in a position where you can see the door. In such a way that you can see your date arrive but they can’t see you. If you get a look at them and they look approximately like the photo, but 10 years older or 50 pounds heavier, you can escape down your previously surveyed getaway route. You can always make an excuse phone call and apology once you are out. It’s guilt free you only ran because they lied first.

2 – The escape call. Before leaving for your date make sure you arrange with a friend to call you at a time when you will be a little into your date. After answering the call you can either tell your date it was not important, if all is well, if not however you can fake an emergency that will get you out of there fast.

3 – The fake call, If you didn’t arrange a get out call, you can always fake one, either by saying you have received a text message, or by going to the bathroom and saying someone called whilst you were away.

4 – The reverse fake call – You or a friend, can call the venue where you are having the date, and get them to page your nightmare companion with a fake emergency. They will be puzzled when they receive the message, but nine times out of ten will make their excuses and leave. This may also get you a free meal, don’t hang around too long though, because they may come back!

5 – The fake illness – You can always say you feel ill and need to leave, this takes a bit of care as if you seem too ill, your date may try and leave with you to look after you, so use with caution.

6 – If you are feeling particularly callous you can go the the bathroom and instead run straight out of the exit and don’t look back. Variations of this can be used depending on what type of venue you find yourself in.

7 – This works better for women, but can be adapted for both sexes. Why not use psychological warfare, and get your date to run out on you, by announcing how cute your kids will be, or how you can already see you two being married. Extreme variations of this can include, talking about the voices in your head or even talking to the voices in your head. The main advantage of this method is, if your date dumps you, you will still get to enjoy the meal, drinks, or whatever, and it’s completely guilt free.

8 – Shockingly you could try being honest. Talk to your date say you are sorry but you can see no hope of this date working, make your excuses and go. The advantage of this is whilst not being entirely guilt free, it is a little less heartless than just running, especially if carefully worded.

I hope these tips help you next time you find yourself in a hopeless situation and gets you out of there fast. I know it may seem cold but there really is no point prolonging a date once you see it has no future. Move on and better luck next time.

Online Dating Guide – Will You Take 4 Simple Steps to Meet Your Great Love on a Dating Site?

An exciting benefit of an internet dating site is knowing that you may meet your great love in one click on a dating profile. You’re about to learn the secret of making the right click and choosing your best love match on internet dating sites, or when you accidentally bump into the love of your life.

The secret is to become a conscious dater.

I learned about conscious dating skills from Atlanta-based relationship coach and syndicated columnist, Jeff Herring. I’ve listed the 4 dating skill that you can learn right now. Then I’ve explained how you can use these skills on internet dating sites as you make a real connection with your virtual date.

4 Skills Of Conscious Dating That Guide You To Your Great Love

1. Scouting

Looking around your neighborhood or the world for people to whom you are attracted.
When you scout online, it’s often called searching or hunting for your love match.

2. Sorting

Having conversations that tell you whether this person is worth pursuing.

In online dating sites, you can have these conversations via email, by phone or video chats. However, there is a danger you can fall in love at first write or sound or sight through these virtual conversations.

In this step, you sort through your real feelings and compatibility to determine if you should make a real date with your virtual date by meeting face-to-face.

3. Screening

Doing things together and having longer conversations that tell you whether this person could become your life partner. Screening is not a virtual activity, since you’re now doing things together in person. That’s true for the final step:

4. Testing

Doing life together to see if this is doable over the long haul. Dating sounds simple when you see it as a conscious process and use these skills on dating sites.

How To Use These Skills To Make A Real Connection With Your Virtual Date:

There is a unique benefit of being a conscious dater on internet dating sites.

You may get a few chances to make a good first impression, as you progress through 4 stages of virtual meetings:

– being attracted to photos
– feeling interested in certain dating profiles
– getting to know a virtual date in e-notes
– enjoying phone and video conversations

A virtual connection may be captivating, but it isn’t real until you meet in person and see what feelings arise.

In each of these 4 stages of virtual meetings, you can move past chit-chat to make a meaningful connection.

How?

Casually mention issues, interests and core values that are important to you in order to find out how your virtual date feels about them.

For example, if you’re a single parent, you might tell your virtual date in an early email or video chat that you love to go to your kids school and sports events, including their hockey games on weekend nights. Then watch their reactions.

They’ll let you know if spending weekend evenings with kids at the ice rink is Not their idea of fun.
You’ll be able to tell if they like kids, respect your commitment to family, and would enjoy being part of the fun.
If single parenting is your top priority, you would know which virtual match is a good fit for you on that issue.

What if you meet your love match by chance in real life?

If you have given thought to the strengths and special qualities that you seek and offer your love match, you’ll know what questions you may want to ask at first glance. After you playfully say, “You had me at Hello.”

Free Online Dating Guide – Say Goodbye to Rejection and Hello to a New Relationship

Dating online can be a mystery so this article shares tips from a free online dating guide that can help you move away from awkward rejection and find that new relationship that can add so much to your life. If you would like to learn how to navigate the online dating world then I encourage you to take a couple of minutes to read on.

Free Online Dating Guide

1. Captivate with your photo. Your first impression online will be your photograph so it is important to post the one that sends the right message. A stuffy picture of you in business attire may look nice but it will not get a lot of interest. Instead upload a good quality photo of you in a fun environment maybe outside or at a park. This lively photo points to a fun personality and will get more attention.

2. Read your profile out loud to yourself. Then next thing after your picture that gets noticed will be your profile. Make sure it reads light and positive. You want to avoid anything negative such as, “I can’t believe I am doing this.” Even when said jokingly these comments can come off wrong and keep a person from contacting you. To be sure it sounds good read your profile out loud to yourself.

3. Be respectful even if you are not interested. You want to be conscious of your online presence at all times. If you find that you are not interested in someone do not simply “disappear” or say anything rude. It is surprising how this can come back to haunt you later.

4. Expect others to respect you. Just as you need to be respectful, you should expect the same treatment from others. You do not have to tolerate any harsh treatment on line and if someone is being disrespectful or inconsistent in returning messages to you then feel confident enough to send them a polite message to let them know you are choosing to move on.